June 2024

“Despite Experiencing Childhood Trauma, A Person Can Still Forge A Path To A Rich, Meaningful, And POWERFUL life.” www.richtaylorcoaching.com rich@richtaylorcoaching.com FB: @richtaylorcoaching IG: @richtaylorcoaching ChaLLEnGE thE thOUGhtS aPRIL 2024 thIS OnE IS PERSOnaL: We all experience moments of uncertainty and instability, doubting ourselves and our abilities. through therapy and life coaching, I’ve discovered the importance of challenging these negative thoughts as often, our fears stem from past traumas rather than reflecting who we are today. Our journey to the present may be marked by struggles, but it doesn’t define us as broken; rather, it showcases our resilience in overcoming challenges, including abuse. here’s a letter I wrote to myself when I made the courageous decision to move from nC to CO. Despite my genuine desire to relocate, childhood trauma whispered that I was too weak and lacked the bravery to make such a leap. I confronted these doubts head- on by challenging the thoughts. In the end, I sold my house, packed a truck, hitched my car, and embarked on a cross-country journey with just my faithful pup by my side. I did it. Me! Rich taylor. I accomplished this incredible feat and vowed never to let childhood trauma dictate my worth or courage again. RICHARD: (May 2020) Although the idea of moving to Colorado excites me, I have a lot of hesitation and fear. There are so many ‘what if’s?’ What if I can’t find a job? What if I try to be a freelance photographer, and it does not work? What if I can’t make money? What if I can’t make friends? What if I am not happy? Those concerns are valid. However, the biggest scare is, “What if I move to Colorado and find myself in the same situation?” Barely making ends meet, finding it difficult to make friends, not finding love, and worse, constantly feeling alone. So although I have moments of excitement for the opportunity, there is a lot of fear. It saddens me as I wish I felt more secure and in control. RICHARD’S RESPONSE TO RICHARD: Richard, youare findingnewstrength, self-love, self-respect, and self-worth every single day. Moving to Colorado is an opportunity to continue exploring that growth and change. This should be an exciting time! Sometimes the unknown is what makes the journey worth taking. As for your fears... You are 47 years old and have financially survived up to date. You married a woman who almost caused you to file bankruptcy, and even with that, in a matter of a couple of years, you rebuilt your bank account, bought a home, and bought a new car while being able to save a little. Yes, it is not nearly as much as you had before, but you are rebuilding. Even if it is a slow journey, the fact is, you always find a way. As for work, you are talented, and you will build up a new clientele, or a company will recognize what you can bring to their company and hire you on the spot. You know how to find work no matter where you live. The big question is, “What if I am not happy?” Well, think about this. You are not happy now, so what is the difference? As for new friends, you have lived in NC for over four years, you have made some friends, but you are looking for stronger connections that you are not feeling here. Question this, what is keeping you in NC? Do you really think things could be worse in CO? I say 100% NO! You truly have nothing to lose. Here is the bottom line... you are not happy in NC, so the opportunity to live happier and healthier in CO is worth the risk. Will there be fears? Of course. It is natural. Just make sure they are legitimate fears and not based on childhood traumas. The alternative is to keep doing what you are doing, which is not working. Considering more, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly, hoping for a different outcome. If you stay in NC, there is no chance to live happily. Time has already proven this. It is simply not your place to live. For way too long, you have felt less than worthy of happiness and love. But this is not your fault. You were forced to believe these horrible beliefs by toxic narcissistic abusers—manipulators who disguised control as love. You finally recognized the truth, which is why you rightfully walked away without an apology (smile here!). They didn’t run after you, and why? The answer is simple: you are a threat. You know their dark secret, and they fear you will expose them. They are also threatened by your creativity, talents, and value. Something they will never have, understand, and are jealous of. Be proud! You stood up to your bullies! However, it is also time to let the past go. They are not your trauma any longer. They can’t hurt you anymore and will never control you again. I will make sure of that! Here is themost important thing to take away from this letter. You are strong, intelligent, knowledgeable, professional, and able. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to have respect, you deserve healthy friends, and you deserve love. I believe you will find yourself surprised by what you can achieve if you give yourself a chance. We will do it together! YOU GOt thIS! nOW GO GEt It! 10 Great Recipes T asty recipes for the summer season. Check out the Food Network for more great ideas. Table of Contents 06 Narcissism by Rich Taylor Coaching W e all experience moments of uncertainty and instability, doubting ourselves and our abilities. Through therapy and life coaching, I’ve discovered the importance of challenging these negative thoughts as often, our fears stem from past traumas rather... 08 Things to do in Charlotte for the month of June 2024 J une 2024 is bursting with an abundance of exciting activities and events in Charlotte, North Carolina, promising something for everyone to revel in. So, let’s delve into the plethora of experiences awaiting... 2