February 2024

E A D S “Even with trauma, you can live a happy, healthy and powerful life.” BOUNDARIES: Establishing boundaries entails defining standards for acceptable words and behaviors within a relationship. These standards are personal, requiring individuals to identify, express, and enforce them. The process of creating boundaries can be challenging, demandingmaturity, self-awareness, and confidence. This initial step requires courage, strength, and faith in the person one wants to become. Failure to establish boundaries often leads to relationship difficulties, as prioritizing someone else’s needs at the expense of one’s own places a common pattern and becomes emotionally taxing. However, once proficient in setting boundaries, significant shifts occur. Thefirst shift is a senseof self-empowerment. Settingaboundary signifiesdeclaring, “I amworthyof continuous kindness, respect, and love. I am also worthy of not being treated with anything less.” The second shift you will notice is individuals who do not respect your boundaries will swiftly disappear. This is acceptable, as those who do not appreciate the person you strive to be are never genuine. Conversely, real friends or partners will respect and appreciate your boundaries. Why? Because you are communicating the real you and how you want to show up in the relationship. Most authentic individuals value this honesty and respect it. CONSEQUENCES: All boundaries must have consequences if disrespected, and these consequences must be enforced. Emphasizing this point: consequencesmust be followed through. Failing todo somakes your boundary appear empty, and the other person will not take you seriously. Following through with consequences reinstates the power of your words, worth, and truth. There are different levels of consequences and ending a relationship is not always necessary; usually, a small consequence suffices. However, repeated disrespect may necessitate more severe consequences, and cutting ties becomes an option if the behavior persists. AN EXAMPLE OF A BOUNDARY: During a conflict where a partner exhibits verbal abuse tendencies, setting a boundary is crucial. If such behavior contradicts your boundaries, calmly declare a time-out, stating that the discussion ends due to disrespect of your boundary. Take a break and propose resuming the conversation later with a commitment to respectful communication. If the partner reverts to verbal abuse again, the conversation ends again while establishing a more severe consequence. Repeat offenses may require reconsidering the relationship or talking to a couple’s therapist as the person is showing that they do not respect you or are unable to establish healthy communication. CONCLUSION: Setting boundaries is not about controlling others but about honoring oneself and acknowledging deserved kindness and respect, even during conflicts. It doesn’t involve punishing or controlling others but rather controlling one’s physical presence or level of access. Boundaries require self-worth, confidence, and strength to uphold the desired persona and interaction type. Furthermore, you are not responsible for others’ reactions; you can remain kind and respectful while standing firm in what you deserve. Embracing this newfound empowerment may pose challenges initially, but with practice, it not only becomes easier but also reveals the power of standing by your voice, worth, and expectations in interactions with others. The success of boundaries does not depend on others respecting them, it depends on you standing by them. www.richtaylorcoaching.com rich@richtaylorcoaching.com FB: @richtaylorcoaching 10 Great Recipes B e sure and check out the four recipes that we found. We hope you enjoy and be sure to check out the Food Network for more great ideas. Table of Contents 06 Boundaries by Rich Taylor Coaching E stablishing boundarie entails d fining standards for acceptable words and behaviors within a relationship. This initial step requires courage, strength, and faith in the person one w n s to become. 08 Enjoy The Latest Makeup Trends for February 2024 A s we dive into the heart of February 2024, the world of makeup is brimming with captivating trends that promise to elevate your beauty game. Let’s explore the latest styles that are creating waves in the beauty landscape. 2